Love Chemistry

Before I begin, I would like to offer my sincerest apology for not updating my blog as frequent as I used to. Rest assured that I have no intention to abandon this blog as yet, but for the past one week I had been busy reconciling with my long lost BF who recently came for a short visit after spending months and months in his hometown (he promised he would come back after 3 weeks the last time I left him at the departure gate). That is the absolute truth and nothing but the truth. In between, our lunches and dinners together, through the wonder of the internet that enables us to multitask (a prerequisite to surviving the 21st century), I have managed to compile enough materials to start working on my next book, ” Idiot’s Guide to Gay Love”, the sequel to my previous, still unfinished book, ” Idiot’s Guide to Gay Sex”. The reason why love became the sequel to sex is because in the gay world, sex always comes before love, you learn to love someone after having great sex, you love so that you can have more sex in the future.

Well, as a consolation, I will offer an exclusive preview of this book for every one of you who happens to read this blog. I hope every one will enjoy it and probably in the process gain some new insights on love. The following excerpts are from Chapter 2: Love Chemistry. This chapter deals with the scientific basis behind the unsolved mysteries of love. Since no one in this world have had the nerve of conducting scientific studies on the gay community (afraid of inducing the wrath of the all powerful gay rights activist  all over the world), most of the theories put forward here remains as theories until proven otherwise. Well, enough said, ENJOY.

Chapter 2: Love Chemistry

Stage 1: Falling In Love

Do you find yourself grappling for an answer every time someone asks you how you fell in love with your BF? Have you ever questioned yourself what actually attracted you to your BF in the first place? Is there actually a love at first sight? Scientists including psychologist, sociologist, anthropologist, biologist and even chemist have worked for centuries to try and solve the one mystery that had been baffling us even now, HOW WE FALL IN LOVE ? Here are some of the scientific facts they’ve discovered from their studies.

Love is in the Air

The human pheromone was first discovered by scientists at the Chemical Senses Center in the USA in 1986. The word “pheromone” comes from the Greek words “pherein” and “hormone”, meaning “excitement carrier”. Pheromone is an odorless substance that is found in human sweat and can only be detected by a special organ called the vomeronasal organ (VNO). The role of pheromones in the initial stage of attraction until today remains debatable for two main reasons: VNO is found in some but not all people and even if it is present, it may not be working. Pheromone however is very important for animals. This substance is produced to help them identify each other and choose a mate with an immune system different enough from their own to ensure healthy offspring.

Well, let me help translate that for you. I am a strong believer of pheromone and until today I still attribute my initial attraction to my current BF to the works of pheromone wafting in the air as we sat together on that bench after a thirty minutes climb to the top of the hill. The first time I laid eyes on him, he was clearly not my type, that 30 minutes climb changed everything, as we sat together, him sweating (he sweats a lot), me sweating (to a lesser degree), I found myself drawn to him so close that by the time we made it down the hills, I couldn’t resist asking for his number. I wanted to smell him again, he wasn’t wearing any perfume but I remembered his sweat smelling sweet and pleasant. It was LOVE AT FIRST SMELL.

I have a hypothesis. Most human beings probably have a VNO but they somehow remained dormant and after being left unused for so long became atrophied and therefore useless, some VNOs are probably underdeveloped that these group of people never had the chance to experience the “smell” of pheromone. Gays on the other hand, probably have a well developed and super sensitive VNO that enables them to fall in love with a sweaty hot guy without even realizing that they are actually attracted to their pheromones. Perhaps, pheromones without us realizing, helps us choose the right guy for us to “mate” with. Are you aware that even in a room filled with hot sweaty guys,you only get attracted to one particular guy, that guy that produces the “right” pheromone for you.

Sweats viewed by most people as disgusting, are actually sterile when it is freshly produced, it turns acrid later due to bacterial contamination, which explains the nauseating smell you get from shirts and socks left in the gym bag for one whole day. It might be hard for most gays to admit, but some of us are actually addicted to the smell of sweat. The truth is, it is not the sweat that turns us on but the pheromones within the sweat. This probably explains our obsession with spas and saunas, where everyone is due to sweat. Do you find yourself getting hot and horny after sweating like a pig inside a dry sauna? After a while you find the sweating person sitting right next you simply irresistible and you’re fighting that urge to rip open his towel and suck his dick there and then. In fact, some of the best sex i’ve ever had took place inside saunas. Do you often find yourself walking into a wet sauna and witness an orgy taking place? Perhaps, with water dripping down everyone’s body, all the pheromones get accumulated inside the room and hence, produces a cumulative hightening of sexual drive that gets everyone into an almost explosive bout of horniness thus explaining the irresistible urge to engage yourself in an orgy.

Do you find yourself taking pleasure sitting by the soccer field, watching guys kicking football all day long? Do you find yourself running for hours on the treadmill in the gym, perfectly enjoying the smell of sweating guys running beside you? Do you find the smell of the locker room with all the guys having shower after a hot, sweaty game irresistible? Do you find yourself having a “hard on” every time you take a sniff at a shirt worn by the guy you really like? Are you the type of person that sleeps at night with your BF’s shirt, or even underwear when he’s away, leaving you alone on an empty bed? Are you indeed a PHEROMON ADDICT?

It is also interesting that I find women’s sweat somewhat repulsive. Call me a freak but I solemnly swear that every time I smell a women sweating I always get nauseated. Is it true that not only is the VNO a sensitive organ, through years of education it has also become selective? Is there some sort of connection between the brain and the VNO that not only does it receives input from the VNO, it gives out instruction to the VNO to detect only a certain type of pheromones and rejects others?  It gets more and more confusing. To put it in simpler terms, do we choose our BF based on a complex interaction between the VNO and the brain?

Do you believe in pheromones?